It only takes a few things (that may seem small at the time) to literally destroy a connection from within and break the two people apart,No matter how perfect a relationship may be. We try our best to be happy with our partners, the daily struggle, the compromise, everything we do for our partners is only to ensure a more prosperous future with them, so I’m going to share some of the most dangerous things wreck relationships.
Here are five things that kill a relationship.
1. Keeping quiet about something
It’s very destructive when someone stays quiet about something affecting them, it slowly eats them up inside, and they eventually either blow up with regret or worse.
Whenever something is bothering you, it’s best to let it all out and talk about it rather than keep it all to yourself and make up a million different stories in your mind. Your partner is there to listen to you, talk to them, don’t let an argument create a distance between the two of you.
2. Telling the smallest of lie
One lie begets another. No matter how little or harmless a lie may seem, stick with telling the truth, because you’ll soon find yourself trapped in a web of lies. No matter how hard it is, always avoid hiding it or lying about it, because your partner is bound to either read through the myth or find out later through a third party, so don’t let that happen.
3. Some words hurt more than anything else.
Be very careful with your words; I can’t stress this point enough; words can never be taken back once they’re out in the open. No matter how angry or upset you are, don’t say anything you’ll regret later; don’t say anything to hurt your partner because you might apologize more than intentionally, but they’ll always remember what you said, and it’ll still hurt. Be kind with your words.
4. Not paying attention
Always pay attention to each other, don’t miss even the smallest things, and the tiniest of efforts. When we stop paying attention, our partner slowly gets accustomed to it, and they end doing what they were trying to do for so long.
Pay attention to their efforts, pay attention to their words, don’t make each other feel ignored or lonely because that’s not what love is about, love is all about companionship, love is all about mental and physical presence, love is all about just being there for one another.
5. Going to bed angry
Never, and I mean NEVER, go to bed angry. Fix your problems, come to a conclusion and proper closure, and don’t make the argument to bed and don’t delay it for another day. Whenever the two of you argue, it is vital that you properly talk about it and let the feelings out, be heard and let it go, don’t hold on to it, and don’t delay it for later. It’s both unhealthy and very damaging.
Story by: Ernest Adofo
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